90 Day Fiance--"I Know What You Did" summary s6e4

Previously on “90 Day Fiance”: Jay came home to Pennsylvania with Ashley, and no one really addressed the fact that he's the only black man in the whole neighborhood. No one mentioned Ashley's kids, and Jay was super dramatic about the cold. Steven arrived in Russia, and he and Olga bought a bunch of stuff they'll need for the baby. Olga doesn't really have family (she implied she grew up in an orphanage), so there isn't that drama. Steven doesn't understand how due dates work, and he's irritated that he maybe won't have as much time with Olga as he thought. Also he is determined to be in the room when his son is born, even though that's not the way Russia works. Reina isn't super thrilled about Eric and Eric's life, but Leida said she doesn't have a plan B. She also reiterated that she doesn't like that Eric pays alimony. Larissa arrived at Colt's house and proceeded to shit on everything. Mom was very unhappy, and Colt was his usual condescending self and blew off her concerns. In the morning Larissa cooked, even though she claimed she lied about her cooking skills, and she tried to impress Mom with the cooking. But I don't think she was fooled. Also I looked it up and Brazil is indeed a country where breakfast is light and simple (the phrase for “breakfast” is literally translated “morning coffee”) so that's why she was saying he eats lunch for breakfast or whatever. Fernanda went shopping with Dani, who promised her that Jonathan was just an idiot, but that Fernanda is not dumb or naive for being upset about finding a thong. Fernanda also talked to her family, who can't get visas to come for the wedding, which is really sad. Asuelu and Kalani had a super awkward dinner with her family, where he apologized for not being around earlier, and her dad sort of grudgingly agreed he's trying. But her sister Kolini is still pissed, only now she says it's because she's been Oliver's dad and Asuelu is taking her spot. (click for more)

Larissa can't work because of the visa, so she's stuck at home all day with Colt's mom. She's also wearing a tight jumpsuit in a weird print. After a couple of days she's finally figured out that maybe Mom doesn't like her. But Larissa thinks if she can get along with Colt's mom, then obviously that will improve her relationship with Colt. And he won't send her back to Brazil, is the unspoken second part of that. Larissa suggests that she and Mom go find a sofa. Sure. I think we can all agree that a producer probably told them to go do that. Larissa says she doesn't like the house because it's messy and there's no furniture in the living room. Larissa asks Mom what kind of sofa she'd like to buy, and Mom says she likes overstuffed, old fashioned furniture. Of course Larissa wants more modern furniture. I think we could have guessed that.

At the furniture store, I am going to declare from the signs in the window that it's maybe a rent-to-own type of place. Larissa asks for something that looks expensive but is actually cheap. So what happened to the woman who whined about how Colt wouldn't just buy her new plane tickets every few days? Somewhere along the way she got some sense and I for one would have liked to see when that was. Larissa really likes a leather sectional and Mom says they can't have one because of the cats. None of the sofas in here really look modern. Mom points out that Colt would need to come look at the sofa, and Larissa says he doesn't spend any time at home, and they do, so they should decide without him. OK so we have different definitions of “doesn't spend time at home”. Because as far as I can tell, he goes straight home after work and then doesn't leave. So yeah, if you're home all day, then you do spend more time there, but I don't think he is out of the house very much. Mom of course says Colt is paying for the sofa, so he needs to put his two cents in. Larissa thinks he will love it, and tells us in interview that while Colt hasn't given her the credit card yet (maybe the one smart thing Colt has done this whole damn time), he told her she could buy whatever she wanted if she was with his mom. The salesguy says that the couch is going for $1299, which according to the internet isn't that bad? Larissa says they should pick now, but Mom refuses. Larissa interviews that Colt isn't her father, so she'd like to be independent and buy whatever she wants. I get that it's his money, but he also was dumb and told Larissa to buy whatever she wanted. I think Mom is really just hoping he hates it so she can “win” the argument, but judging from what's happened in the past day or two, that's not going to be the situation. Mom interviews that she and Colt have a joint credit card and a joint bank account, that they've shared since he was 14. Jeez. That's not great. Mom refuses to spend Colt's money without him, and they leave without buying anything.

It's 1am and Olga is having contractions. They're going to head for the hospital. Steven is actually being helpful, finding her shoes and getting her dressed. He knows he doesn't know anything and he's trying not to overreact. The producer confirms they're headed for the hospital. They get a cab and head over. Olga can't think clearly, and this is hard. She tells Steven he's starting to annoy her, and he says he's glad he annoys her, which is weird. Olga changes, and says in confessional that she's afraid because she's only seen videos on the internet and the women there were screaming and crying. There's a nurse taking care of her, and she tells Steven to step back, away from the doorway. Steven says he doesn't like how the hospital looks. Well, it is like 3am, and it doesn't look that bad. Just not super modern and “American”. Olga comes back out and says she needs to go to the room. Steven is not allowed. He will have to come back later that morning and talk to the main doctor. He is trying to grill her about if he will miss the birth, and I seriously think Olga is in the middle of a contraction, as he is concerned with himself. She has no answers for him and he finally lets her leave. But not before whispering that if the baby comes tonight without him “it's gonna be so bad”. What exactly are you talking about? Olga tells him to stop, and he reiterates he doesn't want the baby to come while he's not here. I don't think she has any control of that. He's really obsessing about this. He interviews that it's “absurd” that the father is not allowed in the delivery room, and he can't wait to get his family to America and get away from all these “crazy rules”. He really thought he was going to threaten his fiance, who is in labor, about his breaking the rules, in a foreign country, where he doesn't speak the language. A nurse comes to the waiting room and kicks them all out of the hospital. A producer tells him EXACTLY what Olga told him about asking the doctor in the morning, and he nods with a blank expression and asks “So we'll know nothing tonight?” No, you idiot, pay attention. Outside, he declares he WILL watch his son being born, or he will raise hell. How are you going to raise hell when you can't understand anyone? Also, you're an idiot for threatening a whole hospital while in Russia.

So Leida's parents and brother are coming back with Eric to Wisconsin eventually, so that answers my question. I didn't think that they were going to see how he lives. They're heading back to the cabin in Pennsylvania, and then to Wisconsin. Leida's parents start talking, not in English, and Leida tells Eric they're talking about him. They're saying he looks older than his age. But he's more friendly. Sure. We're reminded that Leida is 28 and Eric's oldest kid is 21. He doesn't think that's a problem at all, while Leida thinks it's weird. But you're still here? I just remembered there are only two bedrooms in this cabin and now 7 adults? Eric says in Indonesia, living in a rural area or a small town means you're poor, so this isn't looking good. The cabin isn't bad, but apparently they stay in five-star hotels. It's a small house, and people are going to sleep on the couches. Dad asks if there are animals in the forest behind the cabin. Nothing dangerous though. Eric goes outside to get Alless from the car (he fell asleep so they let him sleep for a minute) so that everyone can talk about him. Oh, they don't actually. Huh, I thought that was manufactured for drama. Eric is worried about Leida's parents, but he thinks he can at least impress them with his dad skills. Alless is not happy about being woken up, and sadly Alless doesn't calm down until Granpa has him. Reina says she doesn't know how committed Eric is to raising Alless, and it felt to me like she was saying he's not ready to be a dad? Except he has three kids already? Yeah, they seem to be implying he's not ready to be a dad. Weird. Alless cries every time Eric tries to take care of him, and Leida flat out tells Eric “he's not comfortable with you.” She knows her family will miss Alless, and she says if her family thinks Eric is not a good dad, she's concerned they'll decide Eric isn't good enough for her. Well then maybe don't announce in front of everyone that your son isn't comfortable with Eric, damn.

Ashley cooks breakfast and tells us that it's important that she and Jay have some alone time here, because they've been dating long distance. He asks for brown sugar, because “in Jamaica white sugar is for rich people”. As she's trying to find it, she knocks a bunch of stuff out of the cabinet and breaks some glass. She says it's his fault for wanting brown sugar, and I can't tell if she's kidding. Judging from his reaction, neither can Jay. Jay tells us in confessional (with Ashley right there), that he's worried about being with her 24/7. As long as whoever he's living with accepts him, then whatever. Ashley huffs that maybe he should change that to “as long as ASHLEY accepts me”, like he's going to move out or something?

Later that evening they go out. Ashley wants Jay to feel like he has friends, because he has no one here. So apparently she told him they were going out to dinner, but instead she's surprising him with a party with all her friends. I hope he's extroverted enough for that. We're also reminded that Ashley's best friend Natalie doesn't like Jay, because Natalie came to her with proof that Jay was cheating and Ashley blew her off. Ashley says Natalie has no right to be concerned, because she has a story in her head about whatever happened in Jamaica and Ashley doesn't care about what happened in Jamaica. On the one hand, it's not Natalie's life, sure. But if Ashley has leaned on Natalie after everyone has cheated on her, complained about how terrible men are, asked for a ton of emotional support, etc., then I think Natalie has a right to say “You know this guy is cheating on you too?” because she knows when it all comes crashing down, Ashley is going to come crying to her and putting an emotional burden on her. Also I notice the argument isn't “Jay would never” but “I don't care what he did”.

Jay is actually happy to have a surprise party, and he says he's having a great time and he really appreciates this. There's some dancing in the kitchen, while the cameras film Natalie looking pissed. Natalie interviews that she wants Ashley to be happy, and she wants to get along with Jay, but she's not going to pretend he's never done anything shady. Natalie and Jay go outside to talk. Well, Jay says he's going to go outside, Natalie follows him and says she wants to talk, and a cameraperson follows because there's no way they're going to miss this shit. Also we all know there's a high chance some producer told the two of them they needed to have this conversation.

Natalie starts with saying they all know they have their differences. But Natalie is just trying to protect Ashley. Jay just straight up asks why Natalie told Ashley that Jay was cheating on her. He was pissed, and he says he could lose Ashley. OK but why have we not heard a denial of the situation? Because right now it sounds like “How dare you snitch on me”. Or did you edit that part out too? I know you love the shady editing, producers. Natalie says that she's not the one cheating on people. Jay plays dumb, and gets Natalie to say he was with girls before, and then he's like “what was I doing with them?” Natalie just says there was cheating going on, and Jay replies “fucking, sucking, drinking?” Natalie won't make eye contact and says “that's nice”, but I'm wondering if he has a point? “Cheating” is not something with a hard and fast definition. It depends on who you're talking to. Natalie reiterates that he cheated with two girls and she doesn't know how Ashley can be happy with him if he's not genuine. She swears she didn't just make up his cheating. You know, she said she overheard him talking, but we've never heard exactly what he was saying, and now I am really curious. Jay says the past is the past, and now is the future. But what if they have a fight and he needs to just “get out a little”, will he cheat on her again and lie about it? Jay says he's out of the drama right now. Natalie interviews that Jay is a child and a cheater, and how can you possibly think he won't do it again? Jay goes back inside and Natalie is still pissed, because she's watched Ashley be affected by cheating and now it's this big thing about Ashley being hurt. But at this point, even though I think Ashley is being willfully ignorant, I think Natalie has to let it go. She said something to Ashley, who flat out said she didn't care, and she said something to Jay, who blew her off. Natalie has said her piece and no one listened, and they're both adults. Just have to step back and say “I told you so” when it all blows up. No, that's super rude, but you see where I'm going.

Ashley says she saw that “Natalie pulled Jay outside”, which isn't how it happened but sure. Ashley is sure it was dramatic. Jay makes sure to kiss Ashley a bunch in front of Natalie. Ashley continues in confessional about how Jay just got here and now is not the time. I have the feeling that for Ashley it would never be the right time. Not to mention my suspicion that they were told to speak to each other. No one here is really a great person? I also get the feeling Ashley is probably the type of person who ditches their friends every time they're in a relationship, and then after the break-up demands all their attention.

Fernanda and Jonathan are a month into their 90 days. Fernanda is feeling very alone, and Jonathan knows he's not made it super easy for her. Plus she's very bored, and isn't making friends that easily. Jonathan tells her they're going to have a nice dinner at the beach, so she can get out of the house. Aww. They head to Myrtle Beach for the evening, which is about a 90 minute drive. He hopes that going to the beach will help rekindle whatever feelings they had while in Mexico. Fernanda says there's nothing fun in Lumberton, where they live. She basically says the same thing about the beach reminding them about Mexico. They joke about his feeding her and act cute. I find it pretty healthy that they both view the beach in the same way, as a way to remind them of when they met. You know what I mean?

Then Jonathan wants to start talking about wedding planning, because it's only two months away. Fernanda wants to meet his family first, and she interviews that Jonathan doesn't talk about his family. Jonathan replies that she's not marrying his family. But Fernanda is worried because it's about to become her family too, and she needs to know if they can love her. He's said his mom is a good mom, but he has problems with her. Like, when he would go to Mexico to see Fernanda, he wasn't going home to Chicago. Jonathan reassures Fernanda they'll have a plan for if his family loves her, and one for if she doesn't. But let's say they love you, how do you want the wedding to be? Fernanda says he doesn't get it. She's here alone, and it's very difficult. If his family takes the time to get to know her, and then doesn't support the marriage, she probably won't marry him. She can't be happy alone, she needs to meet his family. Jonathan promises they won't talk about the wedding until Fernanda meets his family. Then he interviews that he hasn't told Fernanda his mom found out about the engagement on social media. You idiot. His mom thought he was having a midlife crisis, and he knew his mom would have issues, so he didn't tell her. Mom is jealous. I mean it sounds like he's distanced himself from a bad situation, but for some reason won't explain that to Fernanda.

Asuelu has finally gotten Oliver to be happy to see him. Kalani thinks that her family's objections are because he's Samoan and also they don't know him. That...is not the problem? Maybe for her dad, but her sister has very well-defined issues that are not those two. Kalani interviews that Asuelu has a lot of work to do to win her family over, but right now she just wants to enjoy her family of three. Why does Asuelu have to do all the work when half of this conflict is because you lied to your sister about how everything went down? Also I feel like this is a little immaturity and avoiding the problem. They go to the park and put Oliver in a swing. Kalani says that Asuelu will still have to hold him because he can't support himself, and it looks like he just gets the baby in the swing and leans him against the front. Kalani gets bossy about it, but Asuelu thinks he's doing what he needs to. Kalani says it's too fast, so they stop. Kalani is kind of over-protective, and is not afraid to declare that when Asuelu thinks he's being a good dad, he's actually not.

They go grab a seat to talk about...whatever. Asuelu asks what kind of house they'll move to, and Kalani doesn't know. Does she have a job? She says they can't afford to stay at the Airbnb anymore, because she quit her job just before Asuelu came, so she could spend time with him and Oliver. You idiot. He can't work and you quit your job so you could hang out? She then continues to interview that she doesn't have any more savings because the visa process took a long time and I guess was expensive, and Asuelu didn't contribute. Didn't contribute, or you said you'd pay and he took you at your word? Apparently there is a solution, even though in the actual conversation she says she has no idea. Her parents have a second home in Utah, so they're going to move there. She's lucky they had that. However her brother lives there permanently, and apparently her parents will randomly stop by. But they'll have two weeks until her parents show up. Kalani thinks her brother is there to keep an eye on Asuelu, which is bullshit. He lives there. You're crashing at his house, essentially, because you were too immature to realize you shouldn't quit your job when your fiance can't get one. Asuelu asks about having sex when her parents are around, and there's a stupid exchange where they both pretend it's the OTHER person who is too horny. Asuelu claims Kalani wants to have sex all the time, just like in Samoa. “Because I'm sexy moves”. Heh. Kolini is not coming with them. Kalani is actually upset to leave her sister behind, which kind of surprised me. She tells Asuelu she'd like to go out with her sister, because the dinner was so awkward. She loves the bond between Oliver and Kolini, and she's hoping that before they move to Utah they can work this out. Kalani is also hoping for a second chance from her sister, and she phrases this in a really weird way where it sounds like she's saying she hasn't actually told Kolini the whole truth about the cheating thing. But I thought she did that at the dinner right before Asuelu arrived? Asuelu knows Kolini doesn't like him. Has Kalani ever told him what all happened? That she lied to her sister, so Kolini thinks he cheated, and that's why this is so awkward? Kalani tells him to behave, which is ridiculous. Asuelu is the best behaved person here, aside from Kalani's mom. Kalani is still upset about leaving her sister, and she says she and her sister have a bond no one can break, although I would argue she's done a damn good job of breaking it herself.

Leida, Eric, and company finally arrive in Wisconsin. Eric does not want Leida's parents to see the apartment, because he thinks they won't think it's good enough. I mean, it's a perfectly fine apartment, but not for people with domestic help. So Eric's plan is...don't let Leida's parents near his apartment. Uh huh. He's rented them an apartment downtown (probably another Airbnb) and his family is waiting to greet them. Eric's dad and stepmother are there, and his ex and his youngest daughter. His parents are sweet. Eric interviews that he and his ex had an amicable divorce and they're basically family. I mean, they're still co-parenting, because I think his youngest is 11 or 12. Leida says the extended family is new for her. Leida's parents come in and everyone shakes hands. Alless is shy. Leida interviews that it's weird for Eric to have a really good relationship with his ex. Weird, but I think it's a great thing. Sometimes people love each other but they shouldn't be married. Leida doesn't want to be her best friend, but she knows she'll have to be nice. It kind of sounds like she had planned to be a bitch to his ex and is now discovering she can't. They all squeeze into the living room, where they sit in silence which is awkward. His ex asks about the wedding, and Eric has been doing all the footwork. More silence. His dad thinks she has plenty of time to make decisions. Reina speaks up that she hopes they all support Leida becoming a doctor. It sounds like she is licensed (or whatever the equivalent is in Indonesia) to be a general practitioner. Leida always wanted to be a doctor in America, because doctors in Indonesia don't make that much money. Leida asks where Eric's other two daughters are, and they are at work. She implies they should have dropped everything to greet her, but why would they? Leida is pissed they didn't show up to greet her. They're not taking off work. Plus we know they're not super thrilled about the whole thing, especially the middle daughter who is being kicked out of Eric's apartment. It's a few hours. Calm down. Leida has decided his kids don't care about her. How is this woman going to deal with medical school? Reina asks when Leida is going to see her new home, and Eric says right now. I find it very surprising her family doesn't ask to come along. It seems suspicious to me. I mean, shit, my parents would have asked to come along, and they've got far lower standards for a “good” home. Who am I kidding, my dad would have started several fights by now if he didn't approve of the whole situation. Eric knows Leida is going to be disappointed, but he hopes this is enough.

Larissa and Debbie are driving around, I guess after leaving the furniture place. Larissa says that the only person who should control a man's wallet is his wife. Great. They go pick him up from work. Larissa gives an interview in Portuguese, which I only mention because it's the first time she hasn't spoken English. She says Colt needs to cut the umbilical cord with his mother because he's 33 years old. I don't disagree. They pick up Colt and Larissa tells him she found a cute sofa, “but I would like to know what do you think.” Hmm. Mom says Larissa wanted to buy it right away, but she thought it would be better if Colt looked at it. It's not right to buy something without Colt looking at it. Larissa is pissed, which everyone can tell because she has no poker face. Larissa tries to salvage this by saying she just wanted to surprise him. Uh huh. I don't remember that argument. Colt tells her he appreciates the gesture but he would like some input on something like that. It's a big decision, so her “oh well we could sometimes do things without checking with the other person” falls flat. Larissa practically rolls her eyes (he's in the back seat and can't see her) and fake apologizes and says she'll follow the rules. Mom asks Colt again if he thought they should have bought the sofa, and when he says no she just looks at Larissa in triumph. Oh, she's glad he said no. He and Mom also discuss that there are more furniture stores to look at. In confessional, a producer asks if he thinks the three of them will share a bank account after the marriage, and Colt says he and his mom will probably continue to share a bank account because it's easier. No. No wonder your previous girlfriends told you to separate from your mom. That complaint is not just Larissa. He isn't comfortable giving Larissa the credit card because he knows she'll spend all his money. OK that's true.

The morning after the party, Jay says everyone was nice and he had a good time. Ashley asks what happened with Natalie, and I fully understand her because I would probably do the same thing. But also it's drama between Natalie and Jay and maybe just leave it? Jay says he wasn't comfortable because Natalie is all about the drama and she was chatting too much. She interrupted his whole mood. He tells Ashley that Natalie wanted him to admit he was cheating, and in confessional he FINALLY denies it and says it's a bunch of shit. I swear this is the first time he's actually said it wasn't true, right? Jay then says that he's dealing with a lot, moving to a new country and all, and he doesn't need Natalie on his back, so he'd like her to be out of their lives permanently. Damn. She talked to you once, and now it's an ultimatum? I'd understand if it was six months later and she brought it up constantly, but this immediate ban feels really harsh and also like is afraid of Natalie hanging around and influencing Ashley. Ashley, meanwhile, tells Jay that she wishes Natalie would get over it, because only Jay knows the truth, “so it doesn't matter”. What in the fuck does that mean? I thought Natalie was your best friend? I almost hope Jay cheats on you and Natalie refuses to give you any support and you have to suffer alone. Because the argument “I know she accused you of cheating, but only you know the truth so she needs to drop it” is bullshit. You're basically saying you believe Jay over Natalie, when you've said many times he's a player, and you also said you don't care what happened in Jamaica. Ashley is just so delusional right now. Like she can't even understand most of why Natalie is concerned is because Ashley herself gets so distraught when she gets cheated on. Now Natalie is actively out to stop their marriage, apparently. Ashley claims she would never ever try to ruin someone's relationship. I highly doubt that's true. She might voice her opinions, but if they insist, Ashley claims she'll stand by them even if they're doing something stupid. I doubt that too, and apparently she doesn't think Natalie's been voicing her opinions this whole damn time. So your friends aren't really friends unless they support you no matter what? You gotta have at least one friend that will say “this is stupid and I can't pretend to be happy for you when you're being an idiot.” Jay wants Ashley to just tell Natalie to shut the fuck up because she's too annoying. Then he asks what Ashley is going to do about it, which, the problem is between Natalie and Jay so honestly it's their problem. Ashley should tell him to deal with it himself. I suppose it's possible that Natalie always sabotages Ashley's relationships, but doesn't it seem far more likely that she's right about this?

Two days later, we find out that Ashley has kicked Natalie out of the wedding, because she has to “distance” herself from the drama. I knew Ashley was the kind of person to ditch her friends when she got a new relationship. I hope Natalie said “good riddance” and didn't argue. Ashley claims it's been hard to cut her out, but it only took her two days so I don't think it was that hard for her. She also doesn't want to play the middleman, but you could tell them to be adults and not involve you. Ashley doesn't want to look at wedding photos and see people who didn't support their relationship. OK, so that's a good point, but it sounds like Ashley and Natalie didn't actually have their own conversation. Ashley just texted her and kicked her out of the wedding. So we don't know if Natalie would have bailed on her own or not. Also I am pretty confident in saying Ashley doesn't understand that breaking this relationship means if Jay cheats on her and she dumps him, she can't go running to Natalie for sympathy and support.

Ashley curls her hair and then goes to meet her bridesmaids to pick up their “wedding dresses” from the shop. Yes she said wedding dresses. She is also looking forward to “reliable, supportive people” in her wedding party. Whatever. These are the same girls who were going to be in her previous weddings, up to buying dresses. Really? I don't know that I'd shell out for more than one dress for someone on their third engagement. OK, only one previous engagement was planned and paid for. Ashley has to tell the shop worker that Natalie isn't in the wedding so they don't need to try on the dress. I wonder if the worker's reaction was less “oh, let me play up the drama for the camera” and more “great, now we have a plus-sized gown that no one will pay for”. Ashley says she's going to explain to “her girls” what exactly happened. These girls have always understood she's wanted a big wedding so Ashley feels they'll understand why she kicked Natalie. What does kicking out Natalie have to do with a big wedding? Anyway, Ashley spins this whole thing about how Natalie didn't get that she was on thin ice, and she can't possibly know what he was doing in a whole different country, and she doesn't support him. Notice that Ashley has been whining about drama but she's telling them this in front of the shop worker. She's probably loving this, actually. Ashley tells the other bridesmaids that Natalie is just jealous and needs attention and drama. Pot calling kettle. I mean...we don't know these people, but this is a pretty extreme reaction, and like I said I guess Natalie could have always been like this, but Ashley hasn't once said anything about it. Like, “Natalie always thinks my men are cheating on me” or anything. But I guess it could be true. One of the other girls says that of course she's questioned the relationship, but she's going to be there for Ashley no matter what. Ashley says you don't attack somebody, which is not exactly what happened, but go off I guess. Honestly, Natalie, you're better off without these people. Someone else says they've been friends for so long, but it's Ashley's call and sometimes you make sacrifices for a relationship. Oo. Not a rousing endorsement. Someone tells Ashley she made the right choice for her sanity (eye roll) and it's ridiculous. Ashley says she's not going to change her mind. Also side note, the dresses aren't that great. Ashley threatens that if anyone causes drama or tries to question the relationship, they're out.

Asuelu has been here for ten days, and Kalani says they're leaving for Utah in the morning. But apparently this is the best time to have dinner with her sister and talk about things. Why does she always leave everything until the last minute? Is that a production thing or is she a procrastinator? At least she's admitting that Kolini is mad at Asuelu, and she should be mad at Kalani. Asuelu hopes that he'll find out what Kolini doesn't like about him, so he can apologize. “Dinner” appears to be a veggie tray and some cheeses and meats. Kolini offers Asuelu wine, because he's never had any, and at this early point she seems to be in a good mood. She interviews that she doesn't like Asuelu because Kalani said he cheated on her. So not only is she giving up her role in Oliver's life, but it's to someone she doesn't trust. There is no mention of how Kalani told her that it was all a lie, or that she's still Oliver's auntie. Is auntie not good enough for her? Maybe.

They head to the patio to drink wine by the firepit and laugh at Asuelu making faces because he doesn't like wine. Kalani doesn't want to leave the state with “things” being weird, and she wants to be able to come back and visit without weirdness. Maybe the lack of weirdness can start with her making eye contact with her sister. Kolini responds that it will be hard with her and “my baby” not being close to her. Yes, she says “my baby”. Kolini says she was under the impression Asuelu cheated on her sister, so that's why she hated him. Now she just wants to hear from him that he didn't cheat. Asuelu confirms Kalani's story that they didn't know if she would ever come back to Samoa, so they weren't serious. Also at that time Kalani told him she doesn't like “brown guys”. Ouch. Once she returned, then they were serious. Kolini wants to know this is it now. Kalani acts offended and says he's the first person she's really loved, he's here, they're both fully committed. Stop acting insulted. Kolini says she wants to forgive Asuelu and move forward, but she needs to know he loves her and he's here to be a good dad. Asuelu gets choked up and says he wants to prove himself to the family, and that he can do more than what they think about him. Good answer. Kolini says she'll believe him, although she still manages to sound insulting about it. How about an apology? From either one, Kolini for doubting him, or Kalani for lying? She never apologized for letting her sister hate her fiance for so long. Kolini claims to believe him but still be skeptical, which I think means she doesn't believe him at all, but knows she needs to or else she'll look bad. Kalani knows her sister needs proof.

Leida finally arrives at Eric's apartment. She of course is expecting a lot, because Eric has never really been honest. First of all, there's no elevator, which sucks ass no matter what. When they get there, it's not clean at all, and the editors manage to put in some buzzing fly sounds. Eric's daughter left a giant mess and then bailed. Eric is pissed because he asked Tasha to clean. Yeah, but you also asked her to move out and she hasn't yet, so. Everyone is pissed. Leida thinks Tasha did this on purpose, which she might have. Leida sees the bedroom, and declares that the bed is too small. I think it might only be a full, which two people can technically sleep on. But she asks if this is her bed and he'll get another one? She declares they can't share a bed, one of them will have to sleep in the living room. Now she thinks Eric has lied to her. Also she needs both closets. The sofa is like, an inflatable? No real sofa? Anyway, they go out on the balcony, and Eric is seething and looking straight ahead, while Leida is crying and says her sister won't be happy. Leida has an interview and she's upset that she's been telling her family that Eric will provide for her. Meanwhile on the balcony she's crying that her home in Indonesia is bigger and not messy and she has people to help her clean up. Eric does feel bad for disappointing her. Leida is crying that she'll have to clean all this up by herself, and Eric says she doesn't. So it's good to know he's going to share chores. Leida is not hearing this. She says she didn't make that mess, and she needs a person to at least help her. Yeah, how about that person be Tasha? Eric says this, but then he says she's making a mountain out of a molehill. Maybe a little bit, but I'd be pissed off if my new fiance showed me my new apartment and it was a dump. Leida cries that she doesn't feel like she's home and she feels like she wants to go back.

Steven is still pissed off because no one will let him in the delivery room. If only she had her visa, then she'd be giving birth in a “normal” hospital. You need to calm down, dude. There's only so much you're going to be able to do when you aren't actually married and you don't speak Russian. Also the entitlement here is off the charts. Olga has been lonely, being pregnant and not having Steven. Steven at least has progressed to signing paperwork, and he's worried she'll have the baby without him. It's not about you, Steven. Jeez. Then he gets permission after six hours so all his posturing was for nothing. He actually asks Olga if it hurts, like a fucking moron. A doctor comes in and says she's going to give birth today, but the baby's head is very big and may cause problems. He wants to do a C-section. Steven does an actual smart thing and agrees with the doctor. Olga doesn't want an operation, but she's going with them to the room. Now all of a sudden Steven is like “I'm not prepared for this moment.” I hope he faints just so someone can say “this is why we don't let fathers in the delivery room”. I know he wants to be there for his son, so his son doesn't grow up without a father. And that's a great thing, but he's being an idiot about things.

Colt and Larissa go to meet his cousin and his wife. As they get out of the car, Colt holds out his hand for Larissa and says “Darlin'” and full disclosure I made a face. Mom still doesn't like her, I guess, so I think Colt is hoping at least someone in his family likes her. John's wife greets them with all the kids. Larissa confirms that she's still having problems with Mom, and so she also hopes she gets along with John. Larissa admits that the weather has given her problems, because Brazil has beaches and not desert. Colt lies that they're getting along really well at home, and Larissa calls him on it. Then we just get right to it, and John asks if Larissa loves Colt. She says she does, and he asks how she shows love to Colt. Oo, good question. Larissa says she cleans the house, takes care of his clothes and him, and always try to encourage him. Has she been doing these things? I guess she could be cleaning the house. Then she says that maybe to Colt, showing love is just having sex. What is she saying here? That Colt doesn't show her love except to have sex with her? Or does she think that John's only asking the question because Colt says she doesn't love him because she won't have sex with him? What? Colt starts answering the question, even though no one asked him. He says it's not just sex. So I guess he interpreted that as “Colt only shows me he loves me by having sex”. Larissa interviews that Colt has a big sex drive, and maybe he thought Brazilian women were all sexy and wanted sex all the time, but she 's not the same girl that he dreamed. But didn't she say on the last episode that men only like sex and good food? Larissa tells John that Colt would love to spend all day in bed together, and eat together, and do everything together. John and his wife are quick to say they didn't mean that's a bad relationship, but Larissa doesn't think you should be joined at the hip. OK, that's totally fair, but you can't drive and you don't know anyone else so where are you going to go? Colt claims he also needs his space, even though that's not what she said? John and his wife think that Larissa probably has feelings for him, but Colt is being naive and desperate, and has his blinders on. John flat out says in front of Larissa that Colt could always break it off. Then he asks Larissa directly if she's using Colt for a green card. Larissa claims to love him and that he's patient. The green card is just so she can stay here with him. “And he can take the divorce any time that he wants.” Uh huh. Larissa is mad that John was so rude to her, but she's been rude to everyone so whatever. Colt says some shit about high risk or something. John interviews that they're screwed. Larissa is just here for a green card and to get to America. John thinks Colt has a chance to “enjoy” Larissa for the 90 days and then send her back to Brazil. Oof. Colt thinks this conversation went OK. When Larissa says John was rude, Colt blows her off and says John is just worried about him. Maybe it's like the cats and he needs a couple of days. Yeah but Mom still doesn't like her.

Jonathan and Fernanda are having fun on the beach in Myrtle Beach. They're going to go out to the club tonight, and Fernanda is excited because it's like how they met. She asks what kind of music they play, like is it “punches punches punches”? She means like EDM or techno with a strong bass, which you can replicate by saying “punches” and accenting the CH. Hee. Fernanda says she's going to take a shower, but she's gotta hurry because the clubs close earlier. She says she likes to show off her body, and she looks hot. They joke in interview about how long it takes her to get ready, which is fun.

Fernanda can get in the club, but she's still 19 so she can't drink. At least she can get in. They start dancing, and Fernanda says people were looking at them but they're having fun in the moment. Jonathan is of course drinking, several shots. Fernanda says when he drinks he does stupid shit, as many people do. When he orders a double, she tells him it's his last, because she doesn't like him being drunk without her. She goes to pee, and Jonathan is still dancing because of course. Some random blonde girl comes up to grind on him, and he actually does stop her and say he can't dance with her because he's engaged. Fernanda of course appears and starts trying to fight the girl. To be fair, blonde girl was either too drunk or too stupid to understand the simple sentence “I can't dance with you”. Fernanda storms out of the club and curses at him. She demands the car key. She won't believe that he was trying to get rid of the girl. She wants the car key, and he's pissed she's going to leave him there, but he gives her the keys. Then we find out in interview that she basically did the same thing in Mexico: some girl was looking at Jonathan, and he just looked at her, and Fernanda started a whole big bar fight. Jonathan thinks her reaction this time is going to be crazier than that. Fernanda doesn't believe him and she doesn't feel that he really wants to marry her.

Next time, assuming the previews have any truth to them: Colt decides to actually propose and Larissa says “Oh no, Colt”, Asuelu takes Oliver out of his carseat while they're on the highway and Kalani acts like he tossed the baby across the room, Leida's family finally sees the apartment and are of course not that thrilled, Jonathan tells Fernanda if she presses charges (?!) that they'll never give her citizenship and she'll have to go back to Mexico, and she says that's fine, Olga finally gives birth.

So apparently they also had an hour long live show where they talked to various family members and friends about people. Here's whats important. Jonathan's friends, the ones who had the dinner, seem to blame everything on the fact that Fernanda is 19. Apparently the day before this aired something happened between Colt and Larissa, which involved the police so they won't talk about it. I will, though, it seems to be a domestic violence charge against Larissa. Just a ton of drama and a fight that got physical? And she tried to say Colt had hit her and scratched her, but when the cops showed up they looked at his hands and said he bites his nails so he couldn't have done it? But he was clearly injured so she was arrested? So there's that. Colt's mom claimed that Larissa is a great person and she wants Larissa to be happy, but they go back and forth. Also “allegedly” he's had many, many girlfriends. “Many” defined as “four”. Mom and John and his wife don't think Colt has changed at all, but they've never met any of his other girlfriends. Well, I guess Mom did. John does not want to comment, because I am sure he has nothing nice to say. Mom is also now claiming she and Colt each have separate bank accounts, but they use the joint one for like groceries and stuff. Uh huh. Mom also claims Larissa is so funny and they laugh all the time. We haven't seen that at all. I mean the editing on this show is crazy so it's possible they cut all of it out so we would hate Larissa. John and his wife can't figure out what Larissa sees in Colt. Eric's daughter Tasha claims that half of the mess was her dad's, she didn't do it on purpose.