90 Day Fiance--"Ready to Run" summary s6e7

Previously on “90 Day Fiance”: Colt and Larissa fought over the wedding. Larissa wants a fancy dinner at a fancy restaurant, like, say, this Brazilian steakhouse. Colt does not want to spend as much money. He made a stupid joke, then when Larissa got mad he tried to fix it by taking her to look at a venue, but then while there he flirted with the hostess and pissed off Larissa again. Steven continued to be an ass, but in interview he claimed to get it. But when actually speaking to Olga he acted like they both were causing the problem. Ashley decided she didn't trust Jay, even though she basically admitted to everyone that she didn't care if he was cheating on her in Jamaica (she also changed the story to “Natalie lied about Jay in Jamaica”). Now that he's here, apparently, he's not allowed to talk to anyone that's not his family and has to tell her where he's going. They had a really annoying fight about it, where Jay was offended that Ashley was suspicious but also wouldn't say anything to clear himself. I have zero patience for someone who kicked her best friend out of her life for saying “Jay cheated on you” but then can turn around and say “I don't trust him and he better not be cheating”. Eric and Leida finally went back to their lives, after taking Leida's family back to the airport. Reina was so unhappy she refused to say goodbye. Leida is apparently personally offended by the messy apartment, and she decided Tasha did it on purpose. As they met for the first time, Leida basically ordered Tasha to move out that day, while Eric tried to tell her he wasn't putting his daughter on the street, and also suggesting things like Tasha staying in a motel. Tasha pointed out that she's on the lease, and Leida isn't, so whatever. Kalani refused to deal with her problems like an adult and had her brother Nick take Asuelu out with the baby so that Nick could spy and see if Asuelu was “safe” with Oliver. Nick decided that putting the baby on his shoulders, while holding onto him, was so unsafe that Kalani shouldn't marry him. Asuelu was not happy to learn about the spying, because Kalani just flat out told him like it was no big deal. He asked if he always does things wrong then why is he here? Jonathan and Fernanda went to Chicago, where Jonathan's sister was pleasant in person but not very supportive in confessional. Jonathan's mom was passive aggressive and kept bringing up Fernanda's age and pretending she didn't mean to be harsh. (click for more)

53 days for Larissa and Colt. I notice that they are still driving his stupid car. Also Colt says that he thought proposing to Larissa would stop their fighting, because he is dumb. They drive somewhere and she complains about the heat (again), so Colt gets sarcastic and says “Wow, it's like we live in a desert.” She gives him an evil look, as Colt claims in interview that he felt really bad about the disastrous tasting and wanted to make it up to her. So you're on the way to make it up to her, and you're going to be a smartass about how she's hot because you live in the desert and have a car with no air conditioning? They're going to look at a “one bedroom apartment”. Immediate flashback to Larissa talking about a big house with a pool. Colt is also upset that Larissa doesn't want to live with his mother, but honestly that's the most normal thing she's demanded. Well that and for him not to flirt with random girls, and to respect her fear of heights. Larissa interviews that Colt is a mother's boy and he needs to be a man and not live with his mother.

The agent shows them a loft which is very nice. Big kitchen, big master bedroom. Larissa loves it. She interviews that Colt's mom is like a cat: she disappears, but then reappears when it's time to make your life hell. She tries to be nice, but Larissa thinks she is manipulating everything to be the victim. She doesn't want to live with Mom, but it's hard because she can't work and so she can't really do anything with money. The agent tells them that the loft is furnished and will cost $3250 a month. Jeez. Unfurnished is $1650. I don't know if that's good for Vegas or not. Colt says it's more than they're currently paying, and that's divided up with his mom. He wants to make sure his mom's OK with not living with them. Why have you not had that conversation yet? Why does everyone on this show leave their big conversations until the absolute last minute where it causes giant headaches? Larissa is firm about not living with Mom, but Colt insists she knew he lived with his mom when she agreed to marry him. What, so she's never allowed to not like the situation? Colt does some emotional manipulation of his own by throwing his dead father in Larissa's face, saying his mom is his only family. That doesn't mean you have to live with her. Larissa really wants to live somewhere like here, and Colt tells her it's not fair to make him choose between her and his mother. It's totally fair and everyone does it all the time. I kind of wish Larissa would leave him because then how would he justify it, you know? He claims he'd never ask her to make the same choice, which she clearly doesn't believe judging by her face. Colt continues to forget he has a cousin who is also his family, and says it's his responsibility to look after her. You'd think after several girlfriends, including this one, have told him he's too attached to his mother, that he'd figure it out. But he's shown himself to be an idiot, because clearly all the superior logic he claims to have goes right out the window when you talk about his mom. The poor agent has had to listen to this stupid argument. Colt thinks that since Larissa knew he lived with his mom, and she still agreed to come to Vegas, she must have been fine with it. He wants to keep her happy, but he hasn't done a great job so far.

30 days for Ashley and Jay. Ashley says she just wants to look forward to her wedding, but Jay randomly leaves the house and takes her car, and also has been messaging random girls. I'm going to try to not say it all the time, but: you were warned, and you got so delusional you broke a friendship for Jay. So I don't have much sympathy for you now. Ashley claims she doesn't have “good luck” finding “faithful” men in her life. Cheating is wrong, but when EVERY relationship you have ends in cheating? You know? She thinks Jay understands her because he knows her past, which, he might, but that doesn't mean he cares enough not to do it. Ashley declares he can't leave the house without her permission, because it's “disrespectful.” Yeah this is a terrible idea.

Jay comes downstairs and slams dishes around, then asks her if she's still mad about yesterday. She tones down what she said in confessional and just says she doesn't like when he leaves and she doesn't know where he's going. Jay knows she has trust issues. But he says he's just running down the road to get food or something, so she's just going to have to learn to trust him. Jay tells her that this is new, informing people on where he's going. He's used to just doing whatever. “But I don't like when you're upset with me, and stuff.” He apologizes, which should make Ashley feel bad, but I'm sure she just feels like she won. You remember last episode that Jay said he feels like he always has to apologize because Ashley never admits she's wrong. Ashley just stares at him and says nothing. Jay understands why she was mad, he should have told her that he was leaving, and he slept on the couch last night. Yesterday he said he wasn't a child and shouldn't have to wait for her to get out of the shower to go do something. Ashley, after what feels like a week, says she appreciates the apology and that their communication hasn't been good. She will not make eye contact with him, unlike Jay looking at her. Jay wants to work through everything they're going through, and he says sometimes she has to learn from her mistakes, like he is learning from his. She I think admits she has trust issues, although her tone when she's speaking is like a verbal eye roll. Like she doesn't think she has trust issues, but everyone tells her she does and she's trying not to be a total bitch on TV. I'm sick of hearing her tell him that “they” need to work on communication. She can't even look at him until she thanks him for dinner. Jay says he loves her, and she SIMPERS. The worst. Jay says he knows this relationship is real because he's putting in the effort to work things out and learn. Fair. He tells Ashley he's working on helping with chores. She still sucks.

38 days for Fernanda and Jonathan. They're going to try on wedding dresses. Well, Fernanda is going with his sister. Jackie has been really supportive, even though in confessional she hasn't hidden her uncomfortableness well. But she's there for Fernanda, which counts for something. They don't know if Jonathan's mom is coming, but Jackie told her when and where, so they'll just have to wait and see if she shows up. Fernanda is upset because his mom knew she was alone, but still had to “think about it”. They sit by the door to wait for his mom, but I feel like they should just start without her, because she refused to say she was coming. On the other hand, this is probably a person who will guilt trip everyone and start a fight if they don't wait. Fernanda's mom can't come to the wedding, so she wishes Jonathan's mom would understand that and be kind enough to be there for Fernanda in this moment. Aww. I can't tell if Mom is creating healthy boundaries, because she can't handle the relationship and she doesn't want to ruin the day, or if she's being petty and childish. She seemed petty. Honestly I get why Fernanda wants her there, but after how she acted I wouldn't want her to ruin it. Fernanda tells Jackie her mom was upset and she understands that. Jackie interviews that she can't even imagine getting married without her friends and her mom. So I think Jackie gets it, at least a little bit.

Oh look, she showed up. Fernanda looks terrified. Mom says that she decided if Fernanda is going to be part of the family, she should be here and support Fernanda and be part of finding her a dress. You can tell she would rather not be there, though. I'm not sure if she's trying because she wants to accept Fernanda, or because she doesn't want to look like a bitch on TV. Fernanda thanks her and hugs her, as does Jackie. Mom says it's happening quickly and it's a lot to process, but it's going to happen regardless of what she thinks. She seriously thinks this whole thing will explode in her face and she'll be vindicated.

Fernanda says that she's been dreaming about her dress since she was a kid, like many girls, so she's going to try on something she's always thought about and then something different and see what happens. Mom snipes that this is not what she was expecting to do today, and Jackie says “Well, it's very nice of you to come.” Mom brings up Fernanda's age again, in case you were unaware, and then sighs that they have to support Jonathan. Just say you're not OK with it and stop speaking to everyone so we can all get over it. Fernanda's first dress is very sleek and modern, with detached sleeves and no back and a train. It looks amazing. Jackie says it looks mature (ha) and Mom tries to start a fight, but then realizes she looks dumb and just sort of trails off. Once she leaves, Jackie expresses surprise, because it's not something she expected Fernanda to pick out. Mom says something more “age-appropriate” would be better, but what do you think that is, exactly? Also, it's been like two minutes and I'm already sick of her harping on Fernanda being 19. Jackie tells her mom she's freaking out, because if Jonathan knows his mom, so does Jackie. Fernanda's next dress is a big poofy ball gown with a crystal bodice. Her boobs look good. Hee. The shop worker says that it's more playful, and Mom says “More age appropriate, isn't it? In a way?” SHUT UP ALREADY. Fernanda immediately says “No.” Good. Mom of course then freaks out because she got shut down. Third dress is another long sleek gown, with long sleeves and a high boatneck, but backless. She says this third dress is the one. She looks amazing. Jackie asks Fernanda what she thinks her mom would think, which makes Fernanda tear up a little bit. Aww. Mom says she's going to make her cry, as if she's cared about Fernanda's feelings at any point in this entire process. Mom goes and says “Are you OK? I'm sorry” and lets Fernanda cry on her shoulder. I don't buy it. Supposedly she feels for her, being a mom. But she didn't care last night? And then she asks if Fernanda still wants to do it, because I told you guys. Jackie does yell at her though. Mom interviews that it's really happening, now that she's got a dress, but she still doesn't think it's a good idea. Fernanda thinks Jonathan's mom is trying to get to know her better, but she's not as comfortable as she wants. She also doesn't want to be in the middle of Jonathan and his mother's problems.

Time for Steven's stupid ass. Look I'm going to open with that until he stops being stupid. He's acting like they're fighting and it's terrible but without taking any responsibility for his share of the fighting as far as I can see. He's determined that his son will know a healthy family, which is great, but he's also not shown that he thinks any of the unhealthiness is his fault. They take the baby out for a walk in the “fancy park”, which is the first time they're leaving the house as a family, and also involves a car ride. Somehow this is going to improve their relationship? Not if Steven's still ordering Olga around as if she doesn't understand car seats. They have a dumb fight about how he insists on the car seat, she doesn't want to put him in it because it's not for newborns, and...actually she doesn't know how to work the car seat, for real. Steven doesn't understand it either, so at least that's fine. Well, now he thinks that Russian car seats are just stupid, because American car seats are never this complicated. Oh like you've ever dealt with an American car seat except for when you were in one. Olga suggests she just take the baby home, and Steven gets snippy that she should just decide then, whatever you want. Well, the baby is fussing and neither of you can figure out the car seat. I'm not sure why, since they put the baby in the car seat to get home from the hospital. Olga is upset because she's still in pain from the C-section, and Steven is “screaming” at her. He's not “screaming”, although he is still being a pain in the ass.

Olga goes home and puts the baby on the bed, and then when Steven shows up, he refuses to shut the door until “you come on”. Didn't you just say “whatever you want”? Make up your mind. Olga just says OK and then doesn't move, and asks Steven to open the window. Steven crosses his arms like a sulking child and says that he put the stroller together, then broke it down, then put it in the car, then “went through hell and back” with the car seat, and now she doesn't want to go. Olga keeps insisting the car seat is not for a newborn. Olga (I think this is what she means) asks him to put the stroller back together and they'll just walk around here. Steven is horrified that anyone would want to walk “around here”, although I don't see the problem. Steven claims in interview to be trying his best. I find it interesting that Olga's interviews are about how Steven is a jerk, and Steven's interviews are about how it's so terribly hard for them, and he doesn't want his son to be exposed to fighting, and now he's claiming he's doing his best. Oh, and Olga doesn't understand or appreciate all the things he's doing for her. He doesn't get his way and just walks away. Sigh.

59 days for Eric and Leida. They head to the wedding venue. Leida is still sulking about Tasha, supposedly because Tasha hasn't been paying rent or bills so she can save for her own place. And Eric didn't tell her so that's apparently what she's upset about. Eric says the venue is already paid for so they're locked in. Leida pretends she understands it won't be extravagant like her last wedding. Which her parents paid $300,000 for. Eric is paying for all of the wedding, because he wants to prove to her family that he can afford it. Leida claims she wants “simple” but “the best”. Eric knows that he can't live up to her expectations. Tellingly, he goes to hold her hand in the parking lot and she gives him a look and says she's holding her bag. Which is in the crook of her elbow, not her hand.

It looks like a nice hotel banquet hall, pretty standard. The carpet isn't great, and it's not any fancier than those long tables with the cloth skirts, you know what I mean. Cash bar, and some extra seats just in case. Eric reveals there will be 25 people, all his family and friends, because Leida's family can't make it back. They asked her dad just before he left last episode, and he said he didn't know. Eric thinks Leida's OK with it, but they can't do anything about it anyway. Leida thinks it's bland. They can bring decorations in, because of course it's bland while they're just getting shown the room. Leida I guess doesn't want decorations, just flowers. Outside, Leida actually says she is glad her family won't be here, because they'll just complain about how Eric is doing it wrong. Eric, meanwhile, knows Leida wants more, but he's not sure exactly what else she wants.

56 days for Kalani and Asuelu. She misses California, and is trying to spin her short-sighted life choices as “losing” her job and her sister. Also she's still whining about how immature Asuelu is and how her son isn't safe with him. Kalani presents herself as vigilant and responsible, but the more she talks about how much Asuelu is an idiot as if she has always known what to do and has never fucked up, the more overprotective she sounds. Yes, you should always watch the baby and not be on your phone. But don't tell me you never made a mistake? Not one? Kolini is coming to Utah so they can go dress shopping. First of all, I thought you were never going to marry him because he was so shitty at child care. Secondly, Kalani says she is looking forward to some much needed girls time, and she really talks a LOT about how much she needs to relax, or just have time with her family, or whatever. Like every episode there is something about how she can't think about her stress right now, she just needs her mom to watch Oliver so she can spend time with Asuelu, or something like that. She's too excited to take a break. Kalani asks Asuelu if he's nervous about her sister coming, and he immediately says no. I guess that's not the right answer, because her follow-up comment is “you know she's still watching you.” Kolini arrives, and says she wants to hang out with Kalani and Oliver, and get to know Asuelu if they have time. Then she says she's going to keep an eye on him to see if he puts the baby in danger. JESUS FUCKING CHRIST JUST DUMP HIM ALREADY IF HE'S SUCH A FUCKING DANGER TO THE BABY. Either he's fine, or he should never be around the baby and you need to tell him to go back to Samoa. But you can't complain at every turn about what a terrible father he is and then do nothing about it. Kalani blames her sister's doubts on “overprotective sisterhood” and not “the lies I told my sister and then never corrected”.

So the girls go dress shopping, and Kalani says if it wasn't for the 90 days then she'd never be getting married, but now she has to go dress shopping. OK well you still don't have to get married. You'll also not be surprised to know that the sisters and their mom have brought the baby because of course they did. Kalani also has no date, no venue, she has planned nothing. I'm sure she feels it's because Asuelu sucks so much, but I am sure also because she dodges anything that is important but difficult. Like working, like telling her sister she lied, like talking to Asuelu about her doubts. The worker confused but she gets it together. Kalani says it's weird because I guess she didn't think this would ever happen. She feels panicked, but it's not like she didn't know there was a deadline? The first dress is off the shoulder and it's really gorgeous. When the worker asks if she could see herself in this dress (or does she want to try something else), Kalani says she feels weird. Kolini says she's weird with commitment. Kalani claims she is realizing that decisions will have to be made, and it's all real now. It was real when you got pregnant and gave birth, but sure. Kolini makes a “joke” about being able to run in the dress, in the “It's a joke but I know this will also stab you” way only a sibling can do. Kalani wants to try on other dresses and not commit to this one, because that would involve a decision. Mom even confirms in the interview that Kalani has commitment issues. We don't see any more dresses, because Kalani feels rushed and panicked and NOW she thinks they should have a conversation.

Larissa and Colt go home, and Colt says he doesn't want to leave his mom, but he also doesn't want Larissa to leave him. So they're going to move out after the wedding. He also thinks his mom doesn't know this is happening, but I think she suspects. Unlike Kalani, they're going to actually have this difficult conversation now, and not at the last minute, or never. There are couches now, so I guess they agreed on something. Colt admits they looked at houses, and Larissa says they found a one bedroom loft that was amazing. I think she did hesitate, it's not like she just started in immediately gloating about how they don't have room for her. Mom isn't very happy, but she also didn't know that's where they were so she didn't have warning this was happening today. Colt asks where she would go, as if she's offered to leave without prompting and he doesn't think it's a good idea. Mom says if they moved out, she'd find some “senior living”. Don't feel you're tied down to me. Larissa says it would be more comfortable, which is true, but also maybe not what to say right now. I'm not sure what she should say, though. Nothing, probably. Mom's sad to move, and Colt of course now thinks that his mom should live like, next door to them. Or if they got a bigger house? Come on. Colt thinks Larissa might come around and get along with his mom, and change her mind about his mom living with them, because Colt is an idiot.

Eric and Leida are now headed to meet with the florist. You'll recall that Leida said she wanted something simple, but now she's saying the venue is too simple and she doesn't want to be too simple. At least she's got her arm linked with Eric. The florist starts talking about the plan she has, based on the drawing of the venue and Eric's budget of $400. Now, the internet is the internet and wedding costs vary widely based on pretty much everything, but this seems very low. All white roses. Leida isn't thrilled, and when asked by the florist, sort of nonchalantly describes how huge and extravagant her flowers were at her first wedding. She shows a picture, and the florist says she's never had the opportunity to do something like that. “Like a TV show”, she says, as she's being filmed for a TV show. Eric tells us that Leida's flowers at her first wedding cost more than this whole Wisconsin wedding will cost. All this $400 is going to get them is a bouquet, a boutonniere, and centerpieces. The florist gets an interview, so she can say that the budget for this wedding is very modest, and that's not bad exactly, but it is going to require some adjustment on Leida's part. Just as a comparison, one of the huge vases from her last wedding is $400. Leida looks gobsmacked, like she had no concept of money and didn't realize her last wedding cost so much. Maybe she didn't. She hates the venue, and now she doesn't want a “simple flat wedding” and she has class and taste and Eric has to work with her. Meaning “Eric has to do what I want”. Leida gets her phone out again and asks the florist about some different standing arrangements, like six-foot high columns with huge flowers on top. The florist says she can, but they'd have to at least double the budget, if not more. Maybe triple. Eric doesn't want to pay $1200 for flowers, and Leida just looks at him with the facial expression of someone who thinks they're going to get their way. She says she's just afraid this is not enough, is all. Leida claims that she understands Eric isn't wealthy, but then she says that if Eric wasn't paying child support they could spend more money on the wedding. Yeah that's going to go over well. Sadly Eric caves and says they can double the floral budget, but no more than that. Leida is suddenly all smiles. Eric says if it takes more flowers to make her happy, then OK. They're over budget, but he'll figure it out. Leida is happy because this proves she's his priority. Just don't fuck up later.

Steven is still whining about the fighting, and how he's running errands and cleaning the house. It IS probably not great to have him running errands, because he doesn't speak Russian. But I'm not sure how mobile Olga is. I guess she could leave the baby with Steven? He's at the pharmacy picking up medication for baby acne. He struggles with payment, but the pharmacist writes the number down and Russian money has regular Arabic numerals on it, so...? Steven is also taking the probably stupid viewpoint that Olga doesn't appreciate him enough.

When Steven gets home, Olga is feeding the baby. Once everything is put away, Steven plants himself because he's had a lot of time to think. Strap in, y'all. Olga used to be very happy to see him when they first started dating, and it was hard for them when she left, but “you still missed me all. The. Time.” And she was excited to see him when he got off the train in Russia. “But then everything changed.” You can tell Steven rehearsed this lecture in his head on the way home or something. Also, of course something changed SHE HAD A BABY YOU IMBECILE. Then he asks her what happened, but not like “I don't get it, tell me what happened”, but the tone I use on my students when I ask them the next step. Olga doesn't get why he thinks she would be supper happy after an operation. Steven claims he's not asking her to be super happy, except for the part where he totally was. He thinks she's not excited that he's here. It's a valid concern, even with couples that never were separated and don't have anything else stressful going on. A baby changes your relationship. Steven also claims he's busting his ass (“literally”) to get her visa before he has to leave. “You should be appreciating every single thing I'm doing for you.” There was a brief window where he at least was saying the right things, but I guess that's gone now. Richie is two weeks old and Olga thinks it's natural that she take care of the baby. But Steven won't listen to her. He demands a thank you. Actually he asks if she's ever thanked him, and when she says she has, he talks over her to say she never has “because I would remember that”. He tells her that their son can't be the main thing and they have to focus on their relationship too. I don't recall you having that viewpoint when you were railing against the hospital keeping you from your son and mentioning Olga once. “The kid can't be before me.” I can't even make comments about this bullshit. He also claims the kid can't come before Olga. They have a dual interview where he says to her that he knows she puts the baby before him, and Olga asks him not to compare himself with the baby, and he claims he isn't doing that. Olga flat out asks him if he's jealous (you are, you idiot) and he won't answer that. She's not affectionate towards him, but I haven't seen him even try to be affectionate towards her. What has she done for Steven lately? All she does is stay at home, feed the baby, watch the baby. Now he's sulking because she wouldn't sleep next to him, I guess. When Olga finally says she appreciates him, he interrupts her to say she should show him, and then when she is frustrated (as anyone would be because of his stupid bullshit) he's like, see? You're already getting irritated. Having a healthy relationship doesn't mean you get to act like an asshole and as long as no one calls you on being an asshole then everything is fine. Olga tells him that he's forced her to appreciate him, by demanding it. But now it's not enough to just say so, now she has to “show it”, except of course he hasn't explained how he wants that done, because I'm sure he doesn't know. He probably just wants her to grovel because he's jealous of the attention the baby is getting because he's a child. Olga tells him she has hormones and maybe he can calm down, and then she bursts into tears. “You think it's hard for you?” Yeah, it is, because she was pregnant and unmarried this whole time, and alone, and then she thought you coming would be great and you ended up being another child for her to take care of. Don't compare your difficulty in reading fucking numbers with giving birth. He says she doesn't understand how he feels inside. No one cares, asshole. Steven says he doesn't know what's going to happen in the future with this, as if his going away forever was a threat at this point. Please do. Then Steven decides he needs to clear his head because “I can't keep listening to this stuff” so he leaves. Yeah, real healthy there, asshole. “I can't keep listening to this stuff” as if you weren't doing all the talking and Olga was basically trying to stroke your ego the way you demanded.

Steven goes outside and claims he's trying his hardest, which is some colossal bullshit. He knows his family has anger issues and he doesn't want to fight in front of the baby, but then he went home and deliberately picked a fight. So zero sympathy for you too. Now the complaint is that his family ignores him and Olga is too. So she must not love him. I'd ignore you too if all I got was sulking and demanding attention. Olga is worried because if they fight in America, she won't have anyone, no friends, just Steven. He goes back home, sadly, because I wanted her to lock him out. The baby is squalling, and Steven doesn't say anything when Olga ignores him, but I've paused the video on his face and he's jealous. You can tell. He's pissed the baby is crying and Olga didn't drop everything to beg for his forgiveness, and he's mad the baby is getting more attention than he is but on some level he knows to keep his damn mouth shut. He says again in confessional about how if “they” fight all the time then he can't bring up his son in that environment. Well quit picking fights then. They could have had that conversation like adults, except for he rehearsed his dumbass speech about how she was an ungrateful cow and then didn't accept her apology. Olga apologizes for being rude, because just like Jay and Ashley, one person is a dick and one person will always have to be the one who apologizes. Because Steven is a total asshole, instead of accepting it, or apologizing for his part in it, he just starts in on Olga again, about how she knew how he grew up, and neither of them had love, and now they're doing it to themselves. You can't argue that the baby is being ignored, or that he's unloved. So fuck off. He graciously says he's giving her a chance to change and show him because he wants their family to be happy. I hope she takes the baby and disappears and strands him there. Olga asks why it's all on her, why is she going to have to fix it? Attagirl. She bursts into tears again, and Steven says the last thing he wants to do is make her cry. THEN SHUT THE FUCK UP AND STOP BEING AN ASSHOLE. Olga is worried about the baby, and Steven insists she worries too much. Who is the one who refused to drive without the car seat? He still hasn't apologized. Not even an apology tacked onto how he doesn't want to make her cry. But she still needs to do whatever he wants. Olga asks if he thinks the baby is the problem, since he keeps harping on how she pays too much attention to the baby and the baby can't come first. Steven says of course the baby isn't the problem, which contradicts what he has been saying all night. It's that Olga gives the baby all her attention. Olga points out that if she didn't care, she wouldn't be sitting here trying to fix this. Steven just wants Olga to be happy when she sees him. Well then how about not being an asshole so whenever you show up she doesn't have to worry about stroking your ego so you don't yell at her? Olga promises she's happy, which is too bad because I wish she'd told him to knock it off. Well she did say that it wasn't all her job to fix it. Their relationship is hard, and they need to pay attention to the good stuff. In the dual interview, Steven admits he knows he has anger problems, basically. But he's very nonchalant about it, because nothing is ever his fault. Olga says they need to work on that, and he needs to work on it. He claims he agrees, but he's seeing how she's going to be when they go to America and if they're going to work out. As if she would never find him lacking and do the breaking up.

Jay and Ashley drive to the venue. For some reason there's a balloon in the back seat in the shape of a ring that says “I Do”. Ashley tells us that she and Jay talked about their fight and “worked through it”, which I am assuming means Jay apologized and Ashley told him he can't leave without permission. They're out at a barn, because Ashley has planned everything already. Jay says Ashley won't tell him anything but that it's at a barn, there will be 100 people there, and he's wearing a maroon tux. It is a nice venue. Jay says in Jamaica no one makes such a huge deal about weddings, at least not spending as much money, I guess.

They drive home and Ashley's phone starts blowing up. People are messaging her to tell her to look at their wedding website. Apparently there are hundreds of comments, N-bombs in every one. Jesus. I guess they're all anonymous, and just as racist as possible. Jay hasn't experienced this level of racism before. Ashley keeps reading random comments to Jay, which, I'm sure that the producers wanted them to but I don't know that either of them should read any of them. Some comments have threatened to come to the wedding, and Ashley is interpreting those comments as threatening. I'm not sure why Ashley didn't lock down the website, and why anyone can comment on it. They both said they don't know who wrote these comments, and if the website wasn't public then they'd be talking about how it had to be someone they knew. But Ashley has also (foolishly IMO) put all the details about the wedding right there on the website, so the threat to shoot up the wedding is actually a serious one. Ashley gets philosophical about how can someone hate just based on the color of their skin? I didn't know racism was so serious! Jay feels responsible, simply because if he wasn't here, these people wouldn't have emerged. Ashley responds that she has a bunch of black friends and they're not like this. Well, yeah, your black friends are not like this. Do you mean no one is hateful to them? Because I am sure you are wrong about that. Jay suggests they just stay in and keep a low profile, but Ashley insists that he needs to go out and get comfortable, just be alert. No. Jay is the one people are attacking, and he gets to decide if he wants to deal with other people's bullshit. It's on Ashley to be the one who goes out and tells all these white people to fuck off. She says she can't fathom how he feels, except for the part where she knew better than him about if he should confront people or not. She promises she won't let any one disrespect him (except her, I guess). Now she's questioning everything because she's realizing how seriously naive she was. Jay wants to go back to Jamaica.

Kalani is still talking about her doubts, because I am sure she didn't talk to Asuelu yet, so they're all going out with her sister, because Kolini wants to talk to Asuelu about...who the fuck knows. Kalani needs to talk to her own fiancee, instead of having her whole damn family spy on him and confront him for her. Kolini needs to know if Asuelu is here for her sister, instead of just trying to be in America. When she asks if they like Utah, Kalani complains she's getting used to it, and Asuelu says it's a nice place, and he misses his family, but he wants to be here to be close to Kalani and Oliver so he's happy. Heh. He just pre-empted a gang of Kolini's questions, I'm sure. Kolini keeps on grilling him, and asks where he'd be if he hadn't met Kalani. Probably in Samoa, and yes, he liked that she was American, because America is a big country. Asuelu says in confessional that he wants to be with Kalani because when he was little, he wanted to leave Samoa to find a better life. He admits to the sisters that he did think about how maybe he'd end up in America, after he met Kalani, but he wasn't sure that would happen. But of course he thought about it. Anyone would think about it, this is stupid. “So why did you like how Kalani's American?” Asuelu says no, he liked her personality, her love. Sure. He never tried to be like “Oh I like her she's from America and has lots of money.” Fuck you, producers, for cutting that as if that was his answer to “Why do you like my sister?” Kalani then says she thought he was saying the opposite of that. Have you really thought all this time that he just wanted to be with you to get to America? And you still helped him get the visa? And instead of talking to him like an adult you just assumed until your sister asked him? Get out of here with that. Asuelu says she misunderstands him, because of the cultural difference. I'm not sure which “she” he means, because it could apply to both.

Kolini asks how America is different from what he thought, and he says that when a Samoan man marries a white woman, they only love their own family. But when two Samoans marry, they both love each other's families. I think that's what he's saying. Kalani asks what he thinks the situation is here, and he says sometimes she doesn't like his family. Kalani is confused, and he says like yesterday when they Skyped with his brother. Kalani responds that his brother said something sexual to her and she was uncomfortable, but she says it to her sister, and she also gets out her condescending mom tone, because Asuelu is clearly too stupid to understand. Kalani claims he said “When you're done with her I want a turn with her.” OK that's bullshit. The mom tone can stop but whatever you said to his brother is cool and I support it. Kalani informs Asuelu that he won't be acting like she hates his family for no reason. She also interviews that she has done a lot for his family and she's very nice to them. I mean, whatever, but if she wants to bag on his brother forever, I have no problem with that. In the restaurant, she does say it's not fair to say she doesn't care about his family because she's done a lot for them, so I guess that part's true. She even disobeyed her father, because he didn't want her to take Oliver to Samoa, but she wanted the baby to meet Asuelu's parents. “I went against my dad, so your family could see my baby.” Not “our baby”, Kalani? I guess that's the problem. Asuelu is just sitting there, and when Kalani asks if he has anything to say, he says he wants to go home. Then he walks out. Kalani claims to be embarrassed that her sister has witnessed this, which is nonsense. She knew her sister was going to grill him, and she didn't care about any dysfunction that might have popped up from that, based on the questions she was asking. Now she's giving Kolini reasons not to be supportive. You mean like the reasons you gave yesterday when you wanted to be super dramatic about your wedding dress? The sisters shittalk Asuelu and how terrible his communication is, as if the two of them were shining examples of adults who communicated perfectly. Kolini doesn't want her sister to get married, I think partially because she doesn't want her sister to feel like she has to get married, but she also says “I wouldn't want her to marry that”. That. I rewound it, that's what she said. Asuelu thinks that Kalani is going to send him back to Samoa after this fight.

Leida is still pissed about Tasha, because they don't have room. Also Eric doesn't have a proper bed? He says they sleep on a box spring with “a thick mattress pad”. But not a real mattress? Leida tries to claim that because they don't have a real bed, or I guess separate bedrooms, Alless woke up and jumped on her bed. I do agree they need a real bed, and Alless should have his own room. But she's acting like Eric doesn't see any problem with the set-up. He's not Colt. Leida interviews that it's Eric's job to provide a better life for her and her son. Then he should have joined you in Indonesia. Eric is cheap and has just the basics. Leida is the opposite, and they hadn't figured this out yet? So they're buying a new bed and a couch, to make her happy. At the store, Leida says “When I sit on it, you have to get it for me.” No, but nice try. It is a nice couch, but it's $4,000. You can get a cheaper couch. This store is too expensive. All these couches are a couple thousand dollars at least. Leida claims again that she understands Eric isn't wealthy, which she says a lot, right before demanding that he spend a bunch of money on her. “But when I was in Indonesia, Eric promised me that he would take care of me and Allessandro. So he needs to do better.” There it is. They try out beds. Eric turned down the money that Leida's father offered, which I agree was maybe not the best decision. Eric has to buy Alless a proper bed. That's fair. Whatever bed set they're looking at is $7,000, and Leida's response is “But I wanna get a new bed.” Eric tells her that anything over a few hundred isn't happening today. I feel like $7,000 is probably greater than Eric's entire wedding budget. Leida asks why they did the furniture shopping right now, then? Eric didn't know how much anything cost here. Leida gets mad at him for that, for some reason, and asks if she's just supposed to accept that. Either get money from your family or shut up about it. Eric responds that's reality, and reality and feelings are two different things. Yeah, I think Leida is trying to say that since she doesn't like this (not buying whatever she wants) that trumps the reality of Eric being broke. She also thinks that saying “I don't like that” should cause everyone around her to immediately stop and do whatever she wants. Leida interviews that she's been lied to. Well, fair, in that Eric didn't tell her what his apartment was really like, but she supposedly did know he wasn't rich. Also just because you can't have the expensive bed you want doesn't mean you can't have a bed and no one is providing for you.

Leida storms out of the store. Eric eventually follows her, as he interviews that he just doesn't have the money to do what she wants. When he gets out to the car, he asks what that was about, as if no one could tell. Leida says she wants to get rid of the twin bed they have, right now. They can't do it right now, though. “I wanna get what I want, right now!” OK Veruca, calm down. And Eric has to make that happen. She interviews that she was promised they would have “happiness” through “hard work”. I guess she's finally actually realizing Eric isn't wealthy. Finally. But now it's that he's so broke he can't provide for her and her son. I am sure he could, it's just not going to be up to whatever standards your family has, which is why everyone asked why he didn't move to Indonesia to live with you in your giant house with domestic help. Eric says she can have the things she wants, but it will take time. Then she starts cursing about child support and Tasha and the wedding venue, and how she just has to accept everything, so when does she get her way? What is she doing here? We don't know that either, and you got your way at the florist so shush. Leida has been disappointed with him all the time. Also she's decided that because of the child support, there is nothing left for Alless. I can't believe she would bring up providing for her son a million times, but not how Eric should provide for HIS kids. Eric says that he never promised her all these things. He's not rich and they'll have to pick and choose bills. The implication is that she was well aware of how things are and she's chosen to forget. Leida feels blamed (because yes, because she's being unreasonable) and asks if she has to accept everything. Yes, unless you're going to get money from somewhere. Now they go back to “I don't like it” as an argument. Eric says she didn't care before, and I guess it was all fine when she was not in America? But now that she's here, it is a problem. She changes her tune in confessional, saying that it's about her son, and if he's not going to have a better life here, then it's not worth it. I thought it was about how your family is controlling and you didn't like living with them? Eric's right: I'm not sure how she could know Eric wasn't wealthy but still expect to keep her standard of living. Now she's never going to be happy and she'll never accept his child support. It's not necessary in Indonesia. But it is here. Eric says the same thing, because it's true. He doesn't realize he has a burden. Eric says his children aren't a burden, and she needs to get rid of her “selfish, Indonesian culture background”. In America, family is what matters. OK that's not true, and I'm not sure it's her being from Indonesia that is causing this conflict. “Selfish” I can get behind though. He says even kids from a different marriage count as family, which is good seeing as how she's now claiming her son is her reason for being here. Leida continues her tantrum and declares she doesn't want to get married then. OK bye. Eric confirms that she doesn't want to marry him because he's paying child support, and she says yeah, I'll just give the ring back to you. “Let's just end this.” Eric just stares at her for a while.

Next time (but probably not): Ashley and Jay are canceling their wedding, Fernanda tells Jonathan to fix his relationship with his mom, Larissa and John (Colt's cousin) have a big fight, which includes Larissa saying “Who is against the Queen will die!” because she sucks, Olga's friend shows up and Steven continues to be an idiot, Kalani doesn't want to marry Asuelu for whatever stupid reason, everyone is against Leida.